In the Universe, in order to maintain spiritual and material energy balance, energy exchange occurs constantly and continuously. This circulation of energy takes place within the framework of the law on conservation of energy.
Communication is essentially an energy exchange. The energy generated by a person is given outside. But, in accordance with the laws of conservation of energy, a person must receive energy from the outside. Hence the need to communicate.
People communicate for personal gain. During interaction between people, an energy exchange occurs - one gives, the other receives and vice versa. If people like each other, then an intense energy exchange occurs between them. At the same time, both enjoy communication.
Even if two people experiencing mutual attraction do not speak, feigning indifference, their energy fields are still drawn to each other. As they say, “I’m drawn to him.”
During communication between two people, channels are formed between their auras through which energy flows flow in both directions. The streams can be any color and take any shape (they can be seen with extrasensory perception abilities).
Energy channels connect the auras of partners through the corresponding chakras, depending on the type of communication:
Muladhara(base chakra) - relatives.
Svadhisthana(gender chakra) - lovers, married couple, fun friends, relatives.
Manipura(umbilical chakra) - relatives, employees, subordinates, superiors, sports friends and those with whom you enter into competition.
Anahata(heart chakra) - objects of emotional interaction, these are the people we love. For the harmonious development of relations between a man and a woman, it is necessary to have a channel along the sex chakra (svadhisthana).
Vishuddha(throat chakra) - like-minded people, colleagues, etc.
Ajna(frontal chakra) - imitation and adoration of an idol, sect leader, etc. Hypnotic channels, suggestion of thoughts. Telepathic connection with another person.
Sahasrara(crown chakra) - connection only with egregors (collectives, religious communities, sects, football fan clubs, political ideology, etc.)
The more passionate the partners are about each other, the stronger and more active the channels are formed.
During the formation of close, trusting relationships, all chakras are gradually connected by channels. It is in this way that strong relationships arise that are not subject to distance or time. For example, a mother always feels her child, no matter where he is, and no matter how many years have passed since their last meeting. It also happens that, meeting an old acquaintance after many years, a person feels as if they parted just yesterday.
Channels can persist for a very long time - years, decades and move from incarnation to incarnation. That is, channels connect not only bodies, but also souls.
Healthy relationships form bright, clear, pulsating channels. In such relationships there is trust, intimacy, sincerity and there is enough room for personal freedom. Here there is an equivalent exchange of energy, without distortions.
If the relationship is unhealthy, that is, one partner depends on the other, then the channels are heavy, stagnant, dim. Such relationships deprive people of freedom and often boil down to mutual irritation and bitterness.
If one partner wants to completely control the other, the channels can wrap around the aura on all sides.
When relationships gradually die, the channels become thinner and weaker. Over time, energy stops flowing through these channels, communication stops, people become strangers.
If people separate, but the channels are still preserved, then they continue to reach out to each other. It also happens when one partner cuts off communication channels and closes himself off from further interaction, while the other partner is still attached to him and tries in every possible way to break through the energy defense in order to restore the relationship.
In the process of forcibly breaking the channels, the separation is very painful. It takes many months or years to recover from this. Here, much depends on how ready a person is to accept the free will of another and free himself from dependence developed over a long time.
Most channels built in everyday communication disappear without a trace over time. In the case of close relationships, channels remain for a very long time; even after separation, some channels remain. Particularly strong channels arise during sexual and family relationships.
In this fragment you will see an indicative experiment that proves the presence of energy channels between people who have been in a relationship for a long time:
Each time you have sexual intercourse with a new partner, new channels are formed along the sex chakra, connecting people for many years, or even throughout their entire subsequent lives. In this case, it does not matter at all whether the sexual partners managed to learn each other’s names - in the case of sexual contact, a channel is formed and lasts for a very long time. And if there is a channel, then there is a circulation of energy along it. And what quality of energy comes is difficult to say, it depends on the characteristics of the other person’s field. To sleep or not to sleep, and if to sleep, then with whom, is, of course, up to you to decide. It's good when this happens consciously.
It is believed that the strongest channels are the parent ones. But there may be options here too.
In people who live nearby for a long time, energy fields (auras) adapt to each other and work in unison. Intimate relationships require field synchronization. We often notice that people who live together for a long time become similar to each other even in appearance.
If the characteristics of the auras of two individuals are very different, then it will be difficult for them to communicate. When energy flows that are alien to it invade the field, a reaction of repulsion, fear, and disgust appears. “It makes me sick.”
When a person does not want to communicate with someone, he closes his energy field, and all energy flows emanating from the other person are reflected. In this case, the other person gets the impression that he is not being heard, as if he is talking to a wall.
During an illness, the patient’s energy field weakens, and he unconsciously replenishes the missing energy at the expense of those who are nearby. This happens automatically. Healthy people nourish the sick. This is part of family life: first I will help you, then you will help me. If the illness is prolonged and severe, all family members may feel its devastating impact. Over time, they will feel tired and reluctant to care for the patient. At such moments, it is very important to be able to replenish your own energy reserves. You cannot devote all your time only to caring for the patient; you need to be distracted. Hobbies, sports, creativity, communication with friends, and entertainment can come to the rescue.
Negative emotions (anger, envy, jealousy, etc.) directed towards another person pierce his aura with a dark energy flow. In this case, there is a leakage of energy in favor of the aggressor. A person whose aura is polluted by imperfect thinking, dislike or despondency is not able to receive energy from external space, and he replenishes his energy hunger at the expense of other people. This is the so-called energy vampirism.
A vampire can be active. In this case, he takes energy from another person through the active release of negativity in his direction. These are, as a rule, brawlers, conflict-ridden people, constantly grumbling and embittered. If, in response to such a person’s malicious attack, you responded emotionally - you became upset, angry - then your energy flowed towards him. It turns out that the main defense is calmness and ignorance.
IN highest degree Negative interactions can cause such severe destruction of the field that a person will have to recover for a long time. Some aura healing processes occur automatically. In this case they say: “time heals.” But some wounds leave behind lifelong scars that can be carried into future lives. People in this case tend to avoid pain and protect their wounds with energetic and psychological blocks.
It remains to be said that channels can connect not only two people, channels can connect a person with an animal, plant or any inanimate object. For example, many people are familiar with the feeling of longing for a place or home where important events took place. A person can become attached to his car, a child to his toy.
In the event of a dependence on an object to which strong but unhealthy energy channels extend, such channels are usually called. Bindings block a person’s free will and disrupt the energy balance. We will talk about bindings in the next article.
Poets called this state love at first sight, when a guy and a girl, having barely met, feel an unprecedented attraction. Scientists today are studying this phenomenon and putting forward several assumptions about the nature of such feelings.
The article discusses the most famous of them.
Why a man is attracted to a woman: biology
Smell
According to this theory, each person secretes special substances - pheromones. They have virtually no odor, but affect the olfactory receptors, which send a signal to the brain. He, in turn, unconsciously interprets them as an attractive aroma, and the person becomes interesting as a partner.
Women and men have different types pheromones, the intensity of which increases during the period of abstinence, Have a good mood and so on.
Eye contact
Another theory suggests that people are attracted to each other by staring at each other. In the animal world, the latter is a signal of danger, awakening a zone in the brain that decides to approach an object or move away. A person perceives this shake-up as a state of falling in love.
This assumption is supported by a study by American scientists, where they asked subjects to look into the eyes of their interlocutor. Upon closer inspection, many noted the emergence of pleasant feelings for their counterpart.
Why one is drawn to a person: psychology
At one time, the founder of modern psychology, S. Freud, tested in his own practice the assumption that a girl is subconsciously drawn to a man who resembles her own father, and boys are drawn to a girl who is similar (psychologically) to her mother.
At the same time, people are not able to see this similarity, but intuitively strive to find a partner who matches the parent’s psychotype. It is not without reason that acquaintances often note how much the bride resembles the groom’s mother in her youth.
Opposites Attract
Another idea explains attraction by the desire to compensate for one’s own shortcomings with the strengths of a partner. And having met an object that has the necessary qualities, a person experiences tender feelings for him, called the state of falling in love.
Love in return
Seeing special attention from a man to his person, a woman feels most desirable and perfect for this man. An unconscious desire arises to answer him in kind, the girl is drawn to the guy. The result is a mutual feeling. The same is true in the reverse situation: a man falls in love with a lady who adores him.
It is impossible to say that one or another theory is the most correct, therefore each of them has the right to exist.
Throughout their lives, everyone has experienced an irresistible attraction to another person at least once. Many people are concerned about the question of where this feeling comes from and how to react to it correctly? Attraction can arise at the wrong time or to a stranger, or even to someone who does not evoke much sympathy. To understand how to deal with this feeling, you need to know the reasons why you are attracted to a person and how the mechanisms of attraction work.
The subconscious is primarily responsible for the occurrence of attraction, so at first it is difficult for people to give an adequate answer as to why they are drawn to a certain person. Attraction is accompanied by a strong hormonal release, which puts the brain in a state of euphoria and love. Why does this outburst happen? The reasons can be roughly divided into physiological and psychological.
| Physiological reasons | Psychological reasons |
| Sexual hunger (prolonged absence of sexual intercourse). | The need for intimacy, emotionally close relationships. |
| Stress, need for relaxation. | Personal attitudes and values (upbringing, outlook on life, goals and needs that the brain reads instantly). |
| Procreation (the only goal is conception). | Defense mechanisms (what we most need, what we fear). |
| Pleasure (receiving physical pleasure). | Habit (constant repetition of sexual actions leads to their automatic, uncontrolled commission). |
If a girl is attracted to a powerful, dominant man, most likely, her parental family had a patriarchal system, so she is looking for a patron like a father.
If a man is attracted to a woman who is aggressive and disrespectful, then perhaps his mother was harsh and harsh. In this case, the man’s subconscious models the usual stereotype of building relationships between a man and a woman.
Attraction to a stranger is associated with a set of attitudes that are firmly entrenched in a person’s head. The brain selects the most suitable personality based on these criteria, then a chemical reaction occurs. At the level of consciousness, people decide whether a given person is really suitable for them; character, profession, goals, temperament, financial situation, etc. are taken into account.
When a person experiences stress for a long time or does not have sexual intimacy, then attraction can be formed on pure physiology, since sex is the simplest way relieve tension and get a dose of the happiness hormone.
Important!
Attraction and falling in love are not love. Many people confuse these concepts, since attraction can be strong. But gradually hormonal background returns to normal and people are no longer so attracted to each other. They begin to soberly assess the situation, and another question arises: why this particular person? Some people manage to make mistakes.
If you are attracted to the wrong person?
Why are you attracted to a certain man or woman if this is not the person you would like to be with? When attraction arises to a dishonest person, rude, insecure, broken, this means that unconscious mechanisms built on complexes, fears, and blocks are working inside you. To stop the action of these mechanisms, it is necessary to understand for what reason and for what purpose they were launched, and to reset the values.
If a person, more often a woman, is in a state of Victim, he will automatically look for a Tormentor. They become insecure and complex people who need to dominate someone in order to assert themselves. Victim - the best option. To get out of this vicious circle, the Victim needs to enter the position of the Author. Then she will no longer need the Tormentor.
Advice!
Don't take attraction as a sign of fate. Attraction to another person is just a small push that may or may not begin a strong wonderful feeling and a strong relationship for years to come.
Wrong time
There are situations where people feel attracted to other people when they are already in a relationship with someone else. What to do if you are drawn to a person at such an inopportune time? First, find out the reason. They may be as follows:
- lack of love and emotional intimacy in existing relationships;
- lack of sexual intimacy, dissatisfaction with sexual intimacy;
- destructive relationships (collapsed to the ground; presence of inappropriate behavior on the part of the partner);
- crisis (grinding in, birth of a child, crisis at 3 years, 7 years, 12 and 25 years of marriage);
- intrapersonal crisis (age or life, turning points in life).
Based on the reason, you decide what to do. If you decide to maintain an existing relationship, then you need to work on it. You can do this alone or with a partner. The problem definitely needs to be solved before it increases tenfold.
Behavior strategy, problem solving options
Possible behavior when you are strongly attracted to a person can be divided into two categories: if you want intimacy with him, and if you do not want intimacy. When nothing is stopping you and you are ready to try to get closer, consider the following tips:
- get to know the person you like better, do not rush to draw conclusions about him;
- define for yourself the criteria for choosing a life partner, what kind of person he should be, what you will not tolerate;
- try to establish friendly relations.
If you have established a negative cause for the attraction that has arisen, then begin to work on eliminating this cause. Pay attention to the recommendations:
- try to distance yourself from the object of passion;
- don't focus on the feeling;
- engage in self-development.
Is it possible that the person you are magnetically attracted to is the love of your life? Yes, it's possible. Is this necessarily the case? No, not necessarily. Does the attraction go away? Yes, passion always subsides, hormones calm down, and if there is no love and acceptance in this place, then there will be emptiness there.
Any relationship has different options for the development of events. Much depends on people: whether they accept themselves and their partner, whether they work on problems. Unconscious impulses play an important role in human life, but with the help of reason, people can control their instincts and make informed decisions.
Sometimes, you travel on the subway or bus and observe an interesting picture: a neatly and beautifully dressed woman enters and no one pays attention to her. Another woman will come in, dressed more modestly and completely inconspicuously, and all the men’s heads will turn to look at her. Why is this happening? Why do people pay attention to each other? Where do people get attracted to each other? System-vector psychology provides answers to these questions.What plays the main role when choosing a partner?
If you study the information provided system-vector psychology, it becomes clear that we are attracted to each other not by appearance, but by smells. At first it may seem that this is not the case and people pay attention to those who dress brightly. This opinion has developed because people who dress brighter than others, as a rule, have the brightest smell. On the mental level we express emotions, and on the physical, bodily level - smells. That is why dogs sense when a person is afraid, to the smell of fear, unknown to our consciousness, and the animal reacts.How do we pay attention to each other? The answer is given by system-vector psychology.
How do we still notice a person? It turns out that everything happens through our nose, and not our eyes at all, and these are not pleasant smells, for example, emanating from Jadore from Dior, which are so noticed by people, especially with a visual vector, but pheromones, which through the zero nerve go straight into the unconscious, into the area of the brain that is responsible for attraction to each other. This is the vomeronasal organ, which is responsible for both attraction and ranking.
System-vector psychology: why we are attracted to each other
It's not the brightest girls that attract men. Men notice those who smell “attractive.” The brightest scent belongs to the most emotional of all women - the skin-visual beauty. The more she shows and brings her emotions out, the brighter she smells and the more noticeable she is to those around her. The brightest of all is the one who completely brought out her fear in the form of love and compassion. She became the leader's mate.
System-vector psychology shows how visual-cutaneous girls differ from others, in particular in their demonstrativeness. It is thanks to the program they developed that we have a culture, a sense of empathy and compassion for our neighbors. They are the ones who, as a rule, demonstrate themselves in front of cameras and look at us from television screens and magazine covers. They are better than others at identifying stylish clothes and fashion, and are better than others at distinguishing colors and smells.
System-vector psychology: the reason for dating is always a woman
Acquaintance always happens because of a woman. Everyone, except the skin-visual one, releases their scent to one specific type of man - and he suddenly feels attracted to her. He suddenly desires her, distinguishes her from all other women and wants to get to know her, and not anyone else. In other cases, men simply do not notice them.(c) Systemic vector psychology by Yuri Burlan
Smell
Body language revelations
Body language in attraction
This increases dopamine levels and it clears the path to love. Men and women are attracted to people who seem mysterious to them. It's appealing to feel like you've discovered a hidden treasure that needs to be explored. Neural patterns increase excitement because mysterious strangers have a fascination with the unknown, the new.
Even if the stranger is annoying, these people belong to the same social group, are equally attractive and intelligent, and have similar values, interests and communication skills. In this regard, one is looking for its mirror image, which is called “assortative mating.” The chance of falling in love is greatest among people who are unknown but have a similar social and intellectual background. Additionally, the immune system plays a role as it must be different from their own but compatible with it.
Eye contact
The immune system can smell, and perfume covers this. That's why it's important to leave without smelling. From an evolutionary perspective, healthy babies can be born through the right combination of immune systems. Golden mean: We prefer symmetrical faces and bodies and rate them more attractive. In addition, the partner must be well distributed. Balanced male physicists have reproductive advantages, as they have their first sexual intercourse an average of four years ago, have more sexual partners, and reach orgasm with them more often.
Something inexplicable
Women try to give the most symmetrical picture of themselves with makeup and make their face more even. By the way, young people are more symmetrical than older people. What Helen Fisher doesn't mention is "something definite." Why does the spark jump to Him or Her, of course, where there are others who seem to be better suited?
At one time, the founder of modern psychology, S. Freud, tested in his own practice the assumption that a girl is subconsciously drawn to a man who resembles her own father, and boys are drawn to a girl who is similar (psychologically) to her mother.
Physical signals can be inconsistent because not everything is cause and effect, and it is important to evaluate the verbal with the nonverbal together for good interpretation. When it comes to the body language of attraction, we must distinguish between two important factors: the position of the echo, which is when the other person takes the same position as one, and the movement of the echo, which is when the other person copies the movement of one.
Source: Fisher, Helen: This is the first delicate, carefree ecstasy. Men only on models and women only on well-trained men? Attractiveness research is a broad field that also includes the billion-dollar media, fitness, and cosmetics industries. But attractiveness is not the same as beauty; first of all, it also includes the basic characteristics of a person.
We are more beautiful together, researchers have discovered in different experiments. First, study subjects automatically rated a person in a photo with several “real” faces on top of each other to be more attractive. On the other hand, the cheerleader effect, for example, means that people look more attractive in a group than when viewed individually.
At the same time, people are not able to see this similarity, but intuitively strive to find a partner who matches the parent’s psychotype. It is not without reason that acquaintances often note how much the bride resembles the groom’s mother in her youth.
Opposites Attract
Another idea explains attraction by the desire to compensate for one’s own shortcomings with the strengths of a partner. And having met an object that has the necessary qualities, a person experiences tender feelings for him, called the state of falling in love.
In this case, we'll focus on a study published in the Journal of Nonverbal Behavior that analyzed the behavior of two people who felt mutual attraction, paying particular attention to the body language of both people.
If we focus on the material that was obtained for body language analysis, we specifically analyzed the movements of the head, shoulders, arms, arms, torso and legs.
Contrary to what was seen in previous studies, attraction was predicted by synchronization patterns rather than simple imitation of body language. From the results, rhythmic structures of synchronized movements were obtained, patterns of body movement that people adopted.
However, the above-mentioned studies usually focus only on external ones. The appeal, however, involves much more. Carl Grammer talks about the nine universal pillars of attractiveness: youth, symmetry, skin and hair condition, movement, smell, voice, height, hormonal markers and mediocrity.
The smell of our colleague is especially important in the matter of attractiveness. Firstly, deodorant or perfume plays a decisive role, but your own body odor. Because every body reacts differently to stress, poor diet, anxiety and other environmental influences, and the skin removes these different substances through the pores.
Love in return
Seeing special attention from a man to his person, a woman feels most desirable and perfect for this man. An unconscious desire arises to answer him in kind, the girl is drawn to the guy. The result is a mutual feeling. The same is true in the reverse situation: a man falls in love with a lady who adores him.
As in previous studies, this study found that it was the woman who typically initiated and supervised these samples. And, of course, the more interested a woman became, the more complex her body language movement patterns were. So, in conclusion, potential couples prove their compatibility non-verbally by building symphonies of body language, with women being the main drivers. Given the complexity of this description, it is quite clear why synchronicity of movement is never commented on in fashion magazines, although it is probably the closest thing to the truth about how non-verbal attraction is discussed.
Human nature makes him attractive. However, the appeal goes beyond Professor Grammer's nine pillars. Although we are easily impressed by external features, it is primarily the essence of a person that makes him seem attractive as a whole - although sometimes only at first glance. Character, humor, naturalness, charisma are important. But well-groomed impressions and intelligence are important factors. Intelligence does not mean a classical level of education. Rather, it is an opportunity to have a stimulating and entertaining conversation that speaks to us.
It is impossible to say that one or another theory is the most correct, therefore each of them has the right to exist.
Poets called this state love at first sight, when a guy and a girl, having barely met, feel an unprecedented attraction. Scientists today are studying this phenomenon and putting forward several assumptions about the nature of such feelings.
Men and women - difference. It has been scientifically proven that women during their fertile days are particularly strong in masculine attributes, such as B. being attracted to a special chin - more than otherwise. In general, however, men pay more attention to the appearance of women, while for women intelligence and status are important attractions, Prof.
Attractiveness in choosing a partner. External manifestations play a role in the choice of a mate, but do not completely dominate. It is a certain thing, the character of our colleague, to which we are attracted and which we often cannot express in words. Do you know how to recognize when a person is attracted to you through their body language? We are talking to you about the role that bodily expression plays in situations where two people are attracted.
The article discusses the most famous of them.
Why a man is attracted to a woman: biology
Smell
According to this theory, each person secretes special substances - pheromones. They have virtually no odor, but affect the olfactory receptors, which send a signal to the brain. He, in turn, unconsciously interprets them as an attractive aroma, and the person becomes interesting as a partner.
Body language revelations
If someone knows how to read body language or is very observant, they will know that this type of communication can convey a lot of conscious and unconscious information about a person. Oral language it is much easier to control, it is more conscious, but what is connected with the body usually eludes control.
Body language in attraction
For this reason, it's important to know what the body language between two people is when one of them is attracted to the other, because who wouldn't want to know if the person you feel attracted to is attracted?
Nonverbal language reveals our innermost feelings less intentionally and truthfully than verbal language, since psychic defenses are usually not as effective over the long term.
Women and men have different types of pheromones, the intensity of which increases during periods of abstinence, good mood, etc.
Eye contact
Another theory suggests that people are attracted to each other by staring at each other. In the animal world, the latter is a signal of danger, awakening a zone in the brain that decides to approach an object or move away. A person perceives this shake-up as a state of falling in love.
Sometimes it's not easy to interpret body language, but there are some patterns that play a key role in attraction situations. Eye contact: should not be excessive because it can be intimidating, but show interest with a little eye contact. The way of looking also says a lot about contact and emotion, just as they claim that students' expansion occurs to what they like. Smiling is a sign of interest and usually attracts the other person because it shows intimacy and happiness. There are many types of smiles, some are inciting and others are tougher, learn to differentiate them! Physical contact: This increases greater intimacy with the person we are touching. Gentle physical contact, sometimes spontaneous or even unwanted, can be the start of something else. When a person crosses his hands over the chest, it may be that he is cold or that he is protecting himself unconsciously, this can also give rise to the feeling that he is closed and unprepared.
It is important not to take the above as if they were the 10 commandments and evaluate everything as a whole.
This assumption is supported by a study by American scientists, where they asked subjects to look into the eyes of their interlocutor. Upon closer inspection, many noted the emergence of pleasant feelings for their counterpart.
Why one is drawn to a person: psychology
At one time, the founder of modern psychology, S. Freud, tested in his own practice the assumption that a girl is subconsciously drawn to a man who resembles her own father, and boys are drawn to a girl who is similar (psychologically) to her mother.
Physical signals can be inconsistent because not everything is cause and effect, and it is important to evaluate the verbal with the nonverbal together for good interpretation. When it comes to the body language of attraction, we must distinguish between two important factors: the position of the echo, which is when the other person takes the same position as one, and the movement of the echo, which is when the other person copies the movement of one.
Study: Body Language Analysis of Attraction
These two aspects would be important as the researchers suggest that individual movements are not important, but movement patterns are as they would be the ones that tell us the story of attraction between two people. There have been many studies on body language related to attraction to see what signs can show it.